Again, I am going to turn to Veronica Roth for today’s quick thought. I’m about halfway through the third book in her Divergent series, Allegiant. Without giving any content away, one of the characters is told that they are damaged. The character refuses to acknowledge that they are damaged just because of a physiological actuality.
This got me thinking about the labels we give ourselves. There is great power, both positive and negative, in labels. They help us identify with groups with which we want to associate ourselves, as well as groups that we do not.
My question to you is: How do the labels that we claim (and are assigned to us) describe what you are made of?
I hope that my vague questions spark some deeper thoughts. Write your initial thoughts by leaving a comment below!
This blog post offers a great perspective on fundamental attribution error through a cross-cultural lens. Although this is not a perfect response (in my opinion), the author’s honesty provides an authentic counterpoint to the powerful and privileged view.
Originally posted on Black Millennial Musings:
Dear Skinny White Girl Who Does Yoga,
I hope you’re well after the treatment you’ve been getting online. Tonight, I read your article, and as I’m sure you can imagine, I was upset with you. In your article, you surmised that a heavy set Black woman, never before seen in your yoga class, was somehow hostile towards you because you are a skinny white girl. Through your discomfort, you interpreted her actions to be one of anger, tragedy, and despair that, for some reason, was solely directed towards you and your “tastefully tacky” yoga outfit.
I’ve noticed that I haven’t gotten very many views or comments (probably because I’m using way too many words and long paragraphs). I’ve been told that I do this.. a lot..
So, here’s a short one:
For the majority of my life, I have tried to move so quickly from one task to the next that I often miss the “small” things in life. I am halfway to 27 years old, and I have finally felt that dreaded desire for time to slow down.
By moving so fast through life, I have missed many opportunities to see the beautiful moments around me. Although my professional life plays a large role in my life satisfaction, it would never be able to replace the moments I am able to share with my wife and almost-3-year-old daughter. Seriously, where else would you be able to belt out “ROW, ROW, ROW YOUR BELT” obnoxiously loud and be told to do it over and over again?
When have you been able to let all of your inhibitions go in order to experience a beautiful moment?
One of my best friends from my work (who recently left town to attend graduate school in Idaho) came back to Columbia for a visit. This has got to be one of the best surprises (because I found out she was coming to town two days ago) I could have asked for in the new year because it’s been 7 months since we’ve had a good talk.
While we were catching up, we started to talk about how people view the world that is around them. Instead of writing a thesis on schema and mind states (the topics that spurred this part of our conversation), I’d like to focus on one key aspect that we observed in each other. I talked about my own experiences with mind states as it related to the holistic view of career (meaning the entirety of a person’s roles over their lifetime, including work life, academic life, social life, etc.). If a particular mind state becomes prevalent in one aspect of your life, it will often have an affect in other parts of your life.
My friend very wisely pointed out that her view point comes from a people first perspective. People can very easily affect your overall mind state. For example, people who tend to want to work alone can be negatively affected by a job that requires them to talk to people on a consistent basis.
How do you view the world around you: Do environments or people affect your mind state the most? Are then even or is there a mix?
Post your comments below, and I will try not to go three weeks without a post again!
Right now, I’m listening to Insurgent by Veronica Roth and the protagonist, Tris, is being faced with the decision to become a leader of her faction after being nominated by her fellow faction members. The nomination comes to her as a surprise because she does not understand what the others in her faction see in her.
In my own life, I see this constantly. I continually ask myself what others see in me. Why do so many people take the chance on me? For example, how did I ever get hired at the MU Career Center when so many other people wanted the job?
- What are your thoughts?
- When have you even been given a chance to be a person that you do not see in yourself?